SECRECY : THE ENEMY OF INTIMACY

Of all the jokes we shared in S-WAG Husband-Wife jokes outnumbered the rest and invariably continues to captivate us. I thought of compiling something about this palatable institution that unites two elements that are fundamentally, naturally and beautifully different. 

SECRECY : THE ENEMY OF INTIMACY

Falling in love can be amazing. Getting married can be exciting. The excitement of living with someone new brings out the best in all of us; the journey ahead feels like an open road full of possibility.

But then something happens.  Either the relationship starts to feel stale, or perhaps money issues, kids, or trying to figure out a comfortable work-life balance comes into play. Whatever the cause, the initial spark dims or goes out altogether, and the future of our relationship becomes a long and winding road, full of pit stops and flat tires. Why? What went wrong? Aren’t relationships supposed to be immortal?

One of the most rewarding aspects of a relationship is, to be able to share our 'inner-world' with a partner we love, and to be able to share our partner's experiences.  

“Intimacy is the key to an Immortal Relationship”

Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner's feelings, about being there when he/she wants to let their defences down.

“Spontaneity is the key to Immortal Intimacy”

Intimacy is lost if spontaneity is lost. We can be in love but we can’t be in a relationship by lying or hiding things from our partner.  The longer we hold, severe the trauma.

Secrecy is the enemy of Intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a strong foundation of honesty and trust. May God bless every couple an ecstatic & harmonious relationship.

A parable, we once shared in this group….

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.

The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story: If you don’t give your hundred per cent in a relationship, you’ll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred per cent.